a young lady sat next to a young gentleman on the bus this morning. i remembered thinking that they made for a cute couple as they chatted together. they knew each other previously, that was obvious. they chatted and i went back to focusing on the tunes coming out of my mp3. eventually she got to her stop and i heard her say as she left the bus "oh, we don't speak anymore ... at all". how sad is that?
i've had previous conversations with people where i heard "i just can't get along with him at all. he just behaved like a bastard and we just don't get along". she was talking about her brother. i stop. i pause. how can this be?
i once had my softball team completely implode because someone didn't call someone else and they sat at the ballpark waiting for the start of a cancelled game. it became a bunch of pointing fingers and the end of what i think is still a fractured relationship.
what do you mean, you don't speak? what do you mean you just can't get along? are you kidding me that you think so and so is a such and such over a message that you say you never got?
are your relationships so unimportant to you?
when i've been invested in these relationships myself i remember encouraging those involved to reconcile. i did my peacemaker role as best i could. i do this because i must. i do this because we as followers of Christ are to be in the business of reconciliation.
but he was a bastard Ian! so are you sometimes.
but they forgot me Ian! forgive them.
but i just don't like her ... at all. well, that doesn't make you look very appealing either my friend.
it's amazingly common that we are a people of bridge burners nowadays but let me point out that there will come a time where your need will make it so that you'll need to cross that bridge but you won't be able to. put your torch away and repair your broken relationships.
we're to be in the business of forgiveness
even if we don't feel like it
even if they don't deserve it
you don't deserve it either but you're still forgiven.
if i poked at a nerve then forgive me but don't come anywhere near my bridge with that torch. you'll need to deal with me because i'm not going to write you off. even if you're being annoying.
God give me strength.